8 In Writer's Life

Trust me, I’m a professional

Hubby and I had an interesting conversation this morning while we did the pre-work routine.  He was in the shower and I was darting about, checking off a handful of morning tasks I didn’t dare forget before heading out to work.

As a professional in the world of romance writing, I feel duty-bound to share:

Me:  “Honey, the toilet’s not working.”

Hubby:  “So?”

Me:  “So, you need to fix it.”

Hubby:  “Why do I always get the dirty jobs?”

Me:  “Because I’m a soft a gentle female and must be protected from all things dirty and vile.”  (Yes, those words actually came out of my mouth.)

Hubby:  <Snort>  “You?  Soft and Gentle?”

Me:  “Ok, so treat me like I’m soft and gentle.”


Even after almost eleven years of marriage, I can still stump the guy.

He stood there, obviously confounded by my statement, then finally shook it off and went back to the lather, rinse and repeat.

But, you know what?  My statement is a fundamental guidepost I think a lot of guys would do good to remember.  Yeah, we chickas might be “strong like bull” when it comes to juggling the day-to-day routine, but that doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy being the damsel in distress every now and then.  (Even if “distress” is an uncooperative toilet.)

That’s my spin on it anyway.  I’d like to say I’m an expert on the matter given my romance writer occupation, but how about you other ladies?  Do you like it when your knight rushes in to save the day/faulty plumbing?  Or are you more an equal rights woman?

Men?  What about you?  Is there a signal we should work on to delineate when you should/shouldn’t step in for rescue?

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    Marianna Heusler
    June 28, 2013 at 12:58 pm

    I think it must be wonderful to have a big, strong man around to fix the toilet. My husband is big and strong but he can repair nothing, nor would even attempt. I live in a condo, so I have to call Ralph, the big, strong maintenance man. I’d act anyway to have a leaky toilet fixed!

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      June 28, 2013 at 2:55 pm

      Definitely a perk at my house!

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    June 28, 2013 at 2:29 pm

    Hubby: dries off from shower, walks over to said faulty toilet, removes tank lid, looks in; checks ball rock, float, chain connection and flush valve. Notices tank is half-full, checks water line. Flushes toilet, it works! Diagnosis problem as low water pressure because shower and sink water pressure low as well. Proceeds to get dressed. Mental note to tell wife of resolution and check again tonight. Reminder to tell her performed said duties butt naked. Might make interesting sexy plumber/hubby type story or lead to reward for daddy later:)

    Hubby likes to care for his lovely ladies!

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      June 28, 2013 at 2:56 pm

      OMG, dear. I think I laughed so hard I couldn’t breathe.

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    CJ Burright
    June 28, 2013 at 4:07 pm

    Snort! Your hubby is all sorts of awesomesauce! Fixes toilets and a sense of humor – what a catch! I’m with you – even the strongest of women needs to know there’s a knight in shining armor ready to catch her should she fall, to tell her everything’s going to be okay. Or to get her chocolate (or in my case, a mocha).

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    Suzanne Vince
    June 28, 2013 at 5:49 pm

    OMG, laughing my arse off. Did Hubby put his plumber’s toolbelt on said naked body before fixing toilet?

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    Gretchen Wing
    July 1, 2013 at 1:53 pm

    Gave up feeling guilty (as part of the first post-feminist generation of women) a long time ago for enjoying the division of labor in my marriage. I cook better than he does. He fixes stuff better than I do. ‘Nuff said. Rock on!

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    Kim Richard
    July 15, 2013 at 7:50 pm

    Fixing things, taking out the trash, yard work, etc. not for me. Laundry and cleaning, I let him do both things once.
    I will say that sometimes I feel that if I did the yard work and fixed a few things I would do a better job.

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