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The Buddy System

Finding something you enjoy is great.  Finding something you enjoy and someone that likes the same thing?  That kicks ass.

Take for instance books.

Like most writers, I’m a book junkie.  I can park my pajama-clad butt in a comfy chair and read for DAYS, only getting up for bathroom and food breaks.  Sadly, I only allow myself such an indulgence once or twice a year, settling for an hour or two a night instead.  But those marathons do happen.  And woe to my family if they try to pry me from my binge once I’ve started. The only bad thing about finding a book that ropes me in?

Not finding someone equally thrilled with a gem I’ve found.

Yeah, Goodreads lets me spread the word, but nothing feels better than, a) sharing your find with a live human being and, b) said human being buzzing on the same book shortly after.

Out of everyone I know, my sister is my one, tried and true book buddy.  The one who’s ears will prick in delight when I call her all frantic about a new book she just has to read.  We don’t always agree on what’s good and what isn’t—particularly when she’s on one of those damned biography kicks.  But when we do?

Sweet nirvana.

We giggle.  We coo.  We gush.  We sigh.  We frantically research when the next book in the series will be out and schedule our calendars accordingly.

Without her?

Think dead land line.  A mouthful of OMG and no one to listen.

The same buddy principle applies for <ahem> research.  (Pssst—That’s code for man watching.)

Look, I’m a romance writer.  The job description specifically calls for devoted and detailed study of the male species.  And, damn it, I take my job seriously.

But going out on research trips solo isn’t nearly as fun productive without a partner.  I need a Siskel for my Ebert!  So, when it’s time for me to start drawing up new characters, I call my writer pal, T.D. Hart, and we hit the town get to work.  And, I have to say, we’re a rockin’ research team–deeply dedicated to providing our reader’s with a cornucopia of descriptive delights.

What about you?  Are there certain things you love, love, love that are made better by sharing?  Who do you call?  Or do you prefer to protect your special somethings?  Maybe curl your arms around them like a teenage football player with a fully loaded plate of chicken fried steak and mashed potatoes, refusing to share?

Tell me what thrills you!  You never know…I might be your perfect buddy!

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    Marianna Heusler
    September 9, 2013 at 12:01 pm

    Love watching Murder She Wrote – my brother and I know every episode and, even though we know the killer, we enjoy watching Jessica Fletcher in action. A true cozy, which makes me want to live in a book!

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    Jackie King
    September 9, 2013 at 4:48 pm

    Love your posts. It’s an adventure to follow your clever mind wherever it takes me.

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      September 9, 2013 at 6:24 pm

      Ah, thanks Jackie. You always make the effort worth it with your comments.

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    Susan Shay
    September 9, 2013 at 5:24 pm

    I love reading. I always have! Sadly, I’ve never found anyone who has my exact tastes. (I had a time in my life when I read only biographies. But I was a kid then, and they were good.)
    One sister has close-to-taste, though. She turned me on to Kristin Hannah, and I’ll be FOREVER GRATEFUL to her for that favor.
    I tend to be a kick reader. IOW: I get hooked on an author and I’ll read everything he/she’s ever written, then I wait with baited breath for the next one, whether it’s a sequel or not.
    At one time in my life, I read only Louis L’amour. I LOVED LOUIE!
    I don’t understand people who don’t like to read. How can they not READ??? One of my nieces is reading “The Firm” for a class in college. I asked her how far she was in it and she said, “About half way through the first chapter.”
    “The teacher told us we absolutely could not read ahead.”
    I told her I’d have to flunk that class, because when I start a good book, there’s no way I can not read on.

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      September 9, 2013 at 6:23 pm

      You know, I will say that’s the GOOD thing about Goodreads. You can at least see you’re not the only person who likes something and find other people who at least get close to what you like. Still, not the same as giggling and oohing and aahhhing over the phone. 🙂

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    CJ Burright
    September 10, 2013 at 10:32 am

    It’s good to know there are dedicated authors out there willing to get down and dirty in their research. 🙂 The Tonto to my Ranger is my bestie, Michelle. We can talk for hours about books, movies, and boys. It’s free therapy.

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    Gretchen Wing
    September 12, 2013 at 11:16 am

    Gotta share. In fact it makes me nuts when I can’t. I’m always bugging my friends to read what I’ve read so we can gab about it. Do guys do that????

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